Kids need to know that even when they r being disciplined, that parents love them and dont love them any less.
Lauren forgot her homework, again. 2nd time in a week. 1st time, she was let off with a gentle reminder not to do it again,with ideas how to remember her homework. Today, i was upset. So she was not allowed any tv nor computer the rest of the evening. She was clearly upset and was whining and crying. I realised how it was affecting her when she fnally said that ' i'm going to turn mummy's pix away because she is so angry with me. She does not love me.'!!!!
I sat down with her. And explained that i love her...when i am upset and when i am happy. That does not change at all. And she was happy after that.
She read her book. Then we read the faraway tree together. The night ended well.
I am reminded today that children need yhe aasurance of love even when we discipline them. They are two separate things.
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